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Dealing with the Dark Night of the Soul in Twin Flame Relationships

Updated: Mar 17

Navigating the dark night of the soul in a twin flame relationship can be a difficult and challenging experience. However, understanding how to cope with this phase is key to emerging on the other side. Learn about what to expect from the dark night of the soul and how to stay connected amidst all its challenges.

Additionally, the twin flame dark night of the soul symptoms are not easy to discern.


What is the Dark Night of the Soul?

The dark night of the soul is an emotional and spiritual crisis, and can be likened to a period of profound inner transformation, where painful or restrictive beliefs are released and greater insight can be gained. During this time, your spiritual journey intensifies as you face old patterns and challenges within yourself.

You can look at the dark night of the soul as a stage in personal development when a person undergoes a difficult and significant transition to a deeper perception of life and their place in it. This enhanced awareness is accompanied by a painful shedding of previous conceptual frameworks and mental patterns such as an identity, relationship, career, habit, or belief system that previously allowed them to construct meaning in their life.

This can be an overwhelming process for both partners as it’s challenging to make sense of why these things are arising with such intensity.

While it can seem like an insurmountable obstacle, the twin flame dark night of the soul provides a great opportunity to learn powerful lessons about yourself, your partner, and the twin flame connection.

This concept is known from ancient times like ‘Soul Loss’ or the ‘Descent to the Underworld’ in Shamanism, ‘Katabasis’ in Greek mythology, and in modern times is approached by psychology like ‘Positive Disintegration’ in psychology, ‘Nigredo’ — as Carl Jung symbolically understood it in Alchemy.

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What is a dark night of the soul twin flame? If we are in a twin flame relationship then the twin flame that triggers a dark night of the soul in us is called sometimes a "dark twin flame".

In a twin flame relationship, the two partners are very closely knitted emotionally and spiritually, and therefore what one feels the other will feel very quickly. Even illnesses are "copied" from one another, like when one feels a headache and the other feels it too, it's shared twin flame headaches in a concrete sense, even if the causes belong to only one member of the twin flame couple.

Therefore, when one enters the dark night of the soul crises the other will also strongly feel it, although the crisis is not his specifically. If you learn to help each other through this, you will emerge at the other end as a team and be much more powerful!

During the dark night of the soul, both in and out of twin flame relationships, you may find yourself dealing with a huge range of intense emotions. This can feel overwhelming or even paralyzing but it’s important to remember that these feelings are all fleeting. The dark night of the soul meaning in twin flame relationships is always a challenge.

Faced with a dark night, many people treat it like an illness, like depression. They may take medication or go into counseling looking for a cause. It can be useful to search for the roots of a dark night, but in my experience the best way to deal with it is to find the concrete action or decision that it is asking for, and once you accomplish it you can turn to find the root of it.

It may sound strange, but there is a temptation on a dark night process to slip into the enjoyment of the pain and to identify with your emotions and moods. “I’m a lonely person. I’m depressed. Help me.” One striking quality we see in men and women who are dealing successfully with their dark nights is a lack of masochistic surrender to the dark mood, which can be forceful and dominating. This world is mostly focused on pain as an agent of change for soul learning! If one achieves to avoid falling into pain, he can go through this process much more quickly and efficiently. To do this one needs a really higher understanding of how this reality works, which are its main mechanisms, the relation between soul and mind, and so on.

Allow yourself to experience all the emotions and tribulations of this crisis and know that they will pass eventually. Experience them, but don't let yourself be completely swept away mentally. Feel into it, but always keep some mental distance like looking at everything from a vantage point, from your soul level. You may find it helpful to journal, talk to friends, or seek out a spiritual guide or counselor if you need additional support during this time. Identify and release the limiting beliefs which are the core and main cause of this dark night of the soul.

Separation Anxiety: The Challenges of Being Apart From Your Twin Flame

Separation anxiety is a very real challenge in a twin flame relationship, especially during the dark night of the soul. While it’s important to keep realistic boundaries and maintain independence, being physically apart from your partner can be distressing.

Longing for their presence can cause feelings of deep sadness and disconnect, making it difficult to remain centered.

To cope with this form of anxiety:

  • practice meditation,

  • mindful acceptance

  • focus on activities that bring joy and connection such as journaling or creative expression

  • always stay in touch with your twin flame even if at a distance. You need to keep open the communication channels with your twin flames at all costs.

Be aware that over time in a strongly knitted twin flame couple synchronicities tend to occur! During the dark night of the soul many people report experiencing synchronicities - meaningful coincidences that seem to be guiding them toward a deeper understanding of themselves and their place in the world. These synchronicities can take many forms, from chance encounters with people who offer profound insights, to unexpected opportunities that lead to new paths and directions.

Replacing Fear With Self-Love and Compassion

A crucial part of healing the dark night of the soul is consciously shifting from fear to unconditional self-acceptance, allowing your purest essence to shine.

We all have moments when we are anxious and afraid and it’s important to learn how not to judge ourselves in those times. Instead channel love, compassion, and understanding into yourself, opening up a new space within that is free from turmoil. Self-love brings comfort during these times and nurtures the connection with your twin flame.

Do introspection to learn which are the mental patterns, the limiting beliefs in your subconscious, that caused all this. Look into you and also ask your twin flame’s help.

We mirror each other in life, we are embodied down here as souls to progress as awareness and consciousness in couples and groups of close knitted groups of souls, so we better ask each other for help. Ultimately, as souls, we are down here for each other, and not to feel alone emotionally like in a desert.

Maintaining Optimism During Times of Challenge

The twin flames' dark night of the soul is a step for an even higher spiritual evolution of the couple. Despite how challenging the twin flames' dark night of the soul may be, it is important to stay optimistic that things will turn out for the better. Remind yourself that this stage will eventually come to an end and whatever happens there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.

Soulmate relationships on the other hand also put challenges on a couple, but they are generally of lower intensity and complement each other well, which is not the case in twin flame relationships where everything is about high intensity, explosive challenges, everything at the extreme, etc.

Taking time to focus on what you are grateful for can also help maintain your optimism and keep your spirits up while still being honest with where you’re at in your journey.

If you go through a Healing process concerning your limiting beliefs, which also includes releasing your potentially unrealistic expectations whether from yourself or from other people, you will certainly go through the dark night of your soul much quicker and unharmed, and also with a heightened awareness.

Additionally, you will help a lot your twin flame by shortening this process and also giving him or her lots of cues on how to also evolve spiritually faster.


You can learn more by reading other posts in this spiritual site that are coming from a very different and fresh angle than spiritual mainstream, and based on a very long and personal experience and hands-on research, and not from books.

You might also consider a service like Psychic Readings in the Services section of this site from the ones listed here and get a spiritual diagnosis, or Healing limiting beliefs, or Compatibility for lovers, or attend my spiritual School of Body and Soul Ascension Mastery so to raise your body and soul awareness and reach into higher dimensions.



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