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Twin Flame vs Soulmate: Understanding the Difference

Updated: Jul 29, 2023

Twin flame vs soulmate concept always caused perplexity among people. Questions like "What is a twin flame vs soulmate? How to tell the difference between your soulmate and your twin flame?" are many. Moreover, the relationship twin flame vs soulmate vs life partner adds to the confusion.

A twin flame is not the same as a soulmate contrary to popular beliefs. If you're confused about the difference between a twin flame and a soulmate, you're not alone. That said, you're in luck as listed below is a handy guide that covers just that.

There is a number of tell-tale signs but they need to be corroborated with a number of other signs as I will be showing you further in this post. I spiritually watched over years such souls and watched their behavior, energies, and awareness levels and came to some findings that I would like to share with you to clear things up between the two.

I give you below a twin flame vs soulmate chart that works as a compass to find your way in discerning between the two.

Where do souls come from?

First I need to give you a general idea about how souls originate because it plays a role in our discussion.

The original Source of Creation is the Original Consciousness which we all are part of, and who’s at an amazing height of vibration. Well, in order to grow further as vibration (awareness level) the Source needs to gather more experiences to grow even further as awareness. Therefore, it splits herself into countless smaller fragments of very different vibrations, fragments that we generally call souls; these souls have no energy whatsoever, they are just consciousness each with a specific level of awareness. The awareness level of a soul means his vibration at one point in time measured on the chakra scale.

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Twin flame vs Soulmate meaning

To be able to experiment around, the Source built out of energy the Creation, which is the stage on which souls use bodies (instruments made of energy) to experiment with different lives. Creation means everything we perceive by our 5 senses (e.g. the planet, nature, other people, buildings, stars, planets), and what science can also record using instruments (e.g. microbes, cells, neutrons, protons, distant galaxies). A soul uses the body to experiment with life against other souls who also took bodies on a planet.

The goal of each soul is to increase its level of awareness by experiencing different lives, and feeding its experiences back to the Source and hence raising the Source's awareness.

After a soul uses the instrument (the body) long enough in life and wears it out, it discards it upon the body’s death but takes with him the experiences gathered until then. It prepares them for the next life where again it gets other bodies to experiment further to increase their awareness.

In this universe, a soul splits from a 7D (7th chakra level of vibration, or Dimension of vibration) who’s at enlightenment level like Buddha, Jesus, Krishna, etc, down to 6D dimension vibration level, and each soul of 6D split in his turn into 10-12 souls of 5D vibration level, and so on until we get souls of 3D vibration level, like the ones who are embodied in the large majority on Earth. So from each 7D soul several thousand 3D souls come down for embodiment on one planet or another to seek life experiences. A 7D vibration soul we call parent-soul, and who's actually God for the group of souls that split from him and came down here for embodiment.

If two souls are split from the same parent soul they are considered as being part of the same primary group of souls since they are both very closely related as being parts of the same parent soul. They share many more traits than souls who come from different 7D parent souls; ultimately they are siblings in the same soul family. More details you find here.

The feminine and masculine aspects

To discern further between twin souls and soulmates I need to introduce you to the feminine and masculine aspects.

An Aspect has nothing to do with whether we are a man or a woman, it means how a person sees and approaches life. The aspects are meant to complement each other.

For instance, the masculine aspect is more of a builder, draws and follows plans, has direction, is focused, has ambition, and has a compass in life, but doesn’t have access to energy (e.g. intuition, sensitivity to energies, connection with higher dimensions).

The feminine aspect means nurturing others, is triggered by emotions mainly, has lots of empathy and tenderness, has intuition, has full access to energy and giving it to others etc. On the other hand, can’t follow a plan, don’t judge, it’s very difficult to take decisions, and so on.

Both aspects can have positive or negative attributes obviously, depending on the person’s choices in life. The two aspects were designed to ideally complement each other.

Whether we are more masculine or feminine biased is definitory for what we are in life. It’s a mix of our sex, body features, DNA genes, subconscious beliefs, and soul plan in this life.

What is a soulmate?

What is the soulmate's spiritual meaning? The universe's mechanisms assist us in finding an appropriate soul (our soulmate) at a given point in time because a soulmate is our best mate in learning a specific life lesson. The intensity of a relationship with a soulmate can vary but is generally within a reasonable range. Throughout life, we meet tenths and even hundreds of soulmates who help us on our life path, and in return we help them on their life path. It’s kind of a reciprocal assistance relationship.

Soulmates can be parents, siblings, other family members, friends, job colleagues, acquaintances, role models in our life, heroes in the books we read, paintings we admire, etc. Just about everybody we care about can be a soulmate, and we play our role with them one way or the other. Certainly, the closer they are in relation to us the more they influence us, whether in raising our awareness or decreasing it; nevertheless, ultimately everything is a life experience.

In other words, a soulmate means spiritually speaking, a soul that assists us in going through specific life experiences our soul planned before coming down here for embodiment.

Souls who act as our soulmates are not from our primary soul group but split from some other parent souls. Therefore, there are all sorts of differences on very many levels between us and a soulmate that acts as complementary to us, and provide us with lots of things to learn to increase our awareness, which is a good thing.

The bottom line, soulmates complement each other concerning a specific life lesson or a set of them.

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Soulmates and twin flames

What is a twin flame, twin flame explained

A twin flame relationship is an exception to the usual soulmate relationship mechanism. Twin flame relations are known to be very intense and challenging, and there are reasons for this.

What is a twin flame vs soulmate? Twin flames are souls split from the same higher parent soul, and therefore both are part of the same primary group of souls; in other words, they are from the same soul family. Soulmates on the other hand are not from the same soul family. A comparison of twin flame vs soul mate would need several books, so I give you the main points and concise explanations for each.

One reason is that when souls split from the same parent soul they retain different versions of the same features of that specific parent soul. Just that one retains more of the feminine aspect while his sibling soul the masculine aspect of that same feature. A feature can be for instance how that parent-soul sees the lesson of greed for instance. In case of a close relationship between the two siblings-souls, the energy exchange and hence the intensity of events they live together is close to unbearable! It’s like incest between the two in spiritual terms since they are too close in vibration, affinity, and energies, they are family after all!

In light of these, the soul family vs twin flame meaning gets a new understanding. The difference between souls in a typical soulmate relationship, who have very different points about the world so to say, generates novelty and an awareness increase.

Because of this fundamental aspect, energy flows unhindered between the two twin-flame souls with a great intensity that puts a great strain on both of them. On the other hand, this is not the case for soulmates who come from different parent souls, where so many differences are between them that keep down the energy exchange.

Due to the differences between the soulmates, things go slower since the two are different and therefore all sorts of hurdles need to be overcome, and energy exchange between the two is within a reasonable range.

Another reason is that the two reflect too much the same higher soul, and as stated above the Original Source split herself specifically to ensure diversity among souls, to offer a dynamic so as to allow souls to learn new and interesting life lessons, and ultimately enrich awareness. If two souls are too close to one another, it beats the original purpose of the existence of the original Creation, of Source herself!

True, between true twin flames it’s an amazingly thrilling experience but doesn’t produce so much new awareness as in the case of a typical soulmate relationship. On the other hand, the energy exchange between twin flames is amazingly intense!

This is why some specific mechanisms are built into Creation so as not to meet such soul siblings like our twin souls, since such relationships, although very intense, won’t produce really new and interesting lessons like when meeting a soulmate. As always, exceptions are allowed, and such meetings between twin souls do happen, even if very rare, and even less often are happy since the energies and mechanisms in Creation do not really support them. Creation on the other hand allows just about any experience however seldom it is…

difference between a twin flame and soul mate and signs

What is the difference between soulmate and twin flame? There are a few signs which could point to a twin flame relationship:

  • Multiple similarities, rather uncanny. You are actually looking in a mirror in your twin flame.

  • An inexplicable torrent of synchronicities never happened before. You two are carving the energies of reality around in the same way, since you both share the same roots.

  • A sense that you’re meeting yourself. This is to be expected since you are part of the same soul-family

  • Deep connection close to the level of telepathy. You both vibrate in the same range and also have your affinity channel open, so no wonder here.

  • The meeting upsets completely your life, like you were an accountant in Chicago for 20 years with the most average life and prospects, and in no time after you find yourself hunting whales in Japan, or a pirate in Somalia.

  • If you are in a dark night of the soul process, you might notice the so-called dark night of the soul synchronicities that start occurring between you and your partner.

Twin flame vs soul mates differences actually points to the very different life paths a couple will take in life. As mentioned before, a twin flame relationship is very intense, many times painful, full of surprises and crises, and therefore many things to learn, potentially. Concerning specific pains, for instance, it's not uncommon that in a strained twin flame relationship issues like twin flame head pressure might be encountered due to the permanent friction between the two partners.

On the other hand, soulmates are not only loved partners as many think, this niche aspect was hyped by Hollywood and the entertainment industry because it brought lots of money. Actually, this thing with love partners is a minority of cases concerning soulmates. The majority of soulmates are not romantic soulmates and their mission is to teach you lessons about yourself, and you teach them in return.

Moreover, they can be both positive or negative personalities but are nevertheless soulmates that teach you something.

Now, there are specific signs for both positive and negative soulmates.

Positive soulmates are the ones with whom you have a good and open relationship, friendly, romantic, or not, but certainly constructive.

Signs of a positive soulmate relationship:

  • You recognize instantly that soul is important in your life

  • You trust and respect each other

  • They came into your life at the exact right time

  • You feel one another’s pain or happiness

  • You feel at home with them

  • He/she is always in your thoughts

  • You balance each other out

  • There’s an unspoken understanding

  • Sparks fly when you’re together

  • You can be your true self

In the case of a negative personality soulmate, things are a bit more complicated. Generally, you are with them in an aggressor-victim relationship, like he is your wicked boss, mischievous brother, dominant father, arrogant uncle, scheming job colleague, and so on.

Nevertheless, there are signs of these negative soulmates relationships as well:

  • You feel they have an important role in your life, but can’t tell which

  • He/she is always in your thoughts

  • You have a feeling of being trapped, and you would do anything to leave the relationship but circumstances won’t allow you. Until you understand the lesson the energies involved won’t allow you to leave.

  • If you are aware spiritually, you feel there is a lesson there for you to learn but you’re not sure which

Anyway, you will certainly identify in the presence of a soulmate the soulmate energy exchange, which is very different than the energy exchange with an ordinary person you have nothing special in common. The soulmate meaning vs twin flame meaning is that the first is a daily relationship actually, while the second is an exceptional one.

Concerning a twin flame relationship, a dark night of the soul situation meaning the twin flame relationship reached a crisis, is a great opportunity for both partners to grow spiritually if they can overcome the inherent hurdles. Dealing with the Dark Night of the Soul in Twin Flame Relationships is quite a challenge for any couple, but in such cases, the universe assists such a couple in several ways including dark Night of the Soul synchronicities.

The attributes described here both for a soulmate and twin flame are guidelines, but from experience, I can tell you that twin flame meaning vs soulmate meaning can sometimes overlap due to circumstances, and one needs practical experience to discern.


Twin flame vs soul mates is a never-ending play we particpate in over our entire life. Just about any soul in your circle of friends, family, colleagues, and acquaintances can morph into a soulmate. On the other hand, to meet a twin soul is extremely rare as I mentioned above, and this is fortunate due to the intensity and challenges it puts.

Concerning love where the twin flame vs soulmate dilemma matters the most, it’s safe to wish you meet your love soulmate by all means but not your twin flame, unless you are adrenaline-addicted or ready to do anything for your twin flame.

Another important point is that a twin-flame relationship can easily trigger what is called a dark night of the soul twin-flame crisis. This kind of crisis can certainly accelerate your spiritual progress, but if you don't graduate correctly can also bring on rather nasty troubles.

A soulmate meaning vs twin flame meaning is quite different as shown above, but in practice the signs can be rather easily mistaken.

If you seek to know your true compatibility with a potential partner, not using astrology but soul and destiny compatibility, and among many other parameters find if he/she is a soulmate or twin flame for you, you can use the Compatibility for Lovers service.


You can learn more by reading other posts in this spiritual site that are coming from a very different and fresh angle than spiritual mainstream, and based on a very long and personal experience and hands-on research, and not from books.

You might also consider a service like Psychic Readings in the Services section of this site from the ones listed here and get a spiritual diagnosis, or Healing limiting beliefs, or Compatibility for lovers, or attend my spiritual School of Body and Soul Ascension Mastery so to raise your body and soul awareness and reach into higher dimensions.



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