Spiritual discernment as compass for spiritual growth
The most important thing to achieve and use as a fundamental skill on your path of spiritual ascension, of soul growth, is first and foremost the “spiritual discernment”.
Without spiritual discernment you have no compass on the Path and risk losing yourself in all sorts of nonsense spiritual activities that might make you feel high for a while, only to find after years of efforts you just self-deluded yourself. Sure, looking from a higher dimensions perspective, any experience is precious and therefore you can delay a lot like in tenths and hundreds of lives your true spiritual progress, i.e. raising your awareness, but why would one waste his time in life if he/she already decided to put effort in his spiritual growth?
Find ways to evaluate your real spiritual progress
Everything you heard or read that if you feel lots of love, compassion, gratitude, acceptance, and apply this or that procedures and meditations, and/or follow that guru that for sure will make you enlightened, are just nonsense if you can’t evaluate your real progress, to check if the path you follow is still the right one and not gone adrift, and ultimately not self-delude yourself.
I’ve seen many thousands of such spirituals gone astray, even suffering from all sorts of obvious mental and energy-related illnesses, but thinking they reached Buddhahood … Our compass on the self-discovery spiritual Path is tremendously helped by keeping a feeling of humbleness and balance in us.
Certainly, besides spiritual discernment you still need tenacity, a competent guru to use as a guide, be able to feel acceptance, compassion, love, gratitude for what life throws your way whether you like them or not. Moreover, feel detached from everything material around including your body, feel like being a User of everything around and not the Owner of them. In other words, be the Observer of your own life.
For all these to work correctly, you need spiritual discernment so to know when something goes wrong. Developing spiritual discernment needs time, effort, patience, permanent feedback from your spiritual master or spiritual guide, a keen sense of observation of yourself.
Even after reaching a certain degree of this sense, I advise you to still remain in touch with minimum 1-2 higher souls you trust, so to calibrate regularly this sense, which is your soul compass for spiritual and soul growth on your spiritual journey.
If you do the above you have all chances to reach true enlightenment like Buddha, Krishna, Jesus, Lao Tzu, and other such souls.