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A soulmate definition and how to find your soulmate

Updated: Apr 24

A lot of people, whether spiritual or not, often ponder when wishing to meet their other half if the person they encounter could be their "soulmate." Let me break down how the universe works to help us discover our soulmate at just the right moment.

I share with you what I noticed in my activity as a spiritual guide, and also watching and assisting many clients and students in understanding if the person they met was just a casual encounter, a soulmate, or even a twin flame

A soulmate definition

A soul enters this world to explore life and grow through the myriad experiences it collects during its life journey. Throughout their existence, individuals navigate various situations with varying degrees of success. As a result, two people may find themselves drawn to one another, complementing each other's needs to learn essential life lessons at a particular moment. By navigating continuously these human interactions we are granted the opportunity to elevate our consciousness and advance in our soul's evolution.

For example, if one person has in his soul contract to experiment with the subconscious belief of jealousy he will be instinctively attracted by a person that will challenge him with jealousy scenarios; this is an example of a “soulmate”. I know, I know, everybody thinks that being with a soulmate should be something of a permanent bliss but that’s a naive perception of the subject.


A soulmate is just another soul that assists you at one point in time to fulfill the quickest your specific life lesson, and you also help him (as his soulmate) reciprocally to fulfill his. Then you move on to the next life lesson, life experience, and soulmate, and so on. A soulmate can be a lover, but many times it's not.

Don't mistake a soulmate for a twin flame, they are very different.

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How to find your soulmate

We all are antennas

Since vibrationally and energetically we are antennas, we emit around us every moment our vibration we reached at one point in life, and we also receive other people’s emissions. The energy vibration we emit around is "what we are", i.e. the average vibration of our subconscious beliefs and conscious thoughts at any given moment.

So, we naturally resonate with people who are like us or those who complement us in certain life lessons, where one might play the Challenger and the other the Learner.

So, whether in pairs or groups, we journey through life, connecting with soulmates who help us achieve our destiny. At the same time, we become soulmates for others, aiding them in learning their life’s lessons. It’s all about mutual growth and support, this is how Unity of Creation manifests among others!

This is the core setup that lets any soul have a shot at evolving, all based on the choices we make freely.

How long do we stay with our soulmate?

I noticed that when two people, in any kind of close relationship, start feeling disconnected after years of good vibes, it's a sign that their journey together might be reaching its natural conclusion.

It is also true that due to inertia, fears, and other limiting beliefs, many such couples insist on staying in close contact. By doing this, they ignore the signs that it's time to move on and overlook the powerful forces that shape their destiny. They are actually nudged to move forward in life, to the next soulmate, and to other life lessons that are part of their divine agenda as souls.

Of course, since over time strong energy bonds have been created inside the couple when following their common spiritual journey, it's really hard to sever these and split, but that's also part of the life lesson.

How to attract your soulmate?

I will talk further about soulmates as in a love relationship. How to find your soulmate has always been a challenge for any person from the dawn of time. With the right tools and wisdom, including spiritual practices, you can make yourself more interesting to potential partners that fit the soulmate definition above, and draw closer to the one who is perfect for you. You can read below for some tips on how to start the journey toward finding your one true soulmate.

Here are some insights to effortlessly connect with and attract your ideal soulmate, guided by the divine:

  1. Increase Self-Awareness and Personal Growth. A crucial step to being able to attract your spiritual soulmate is being self-aware. I advise you to take the opportunity to explore your identity, acknowledge and appreciate your strengths, document challenges, and concentrate on evolving into an enhanced version of yourself. When it comes to personal growth, look into areas such as education, career, physical health, and self-development for yourself.

  2. First, fix your life issues! Before diving into the dating pool, it's a good idea to sort out your own stuff first. We all have our quirks and challenges, but expecting a new partner to fix them isn't really fair to either of you. So, take some time to work on yourself, and then jump into finding someone amazing to share your life with! Let go of your limiting beliefs first. If you don't fix yourself first, you risk that life will actually bring a partner that also comes with a bag full of his own issues that also hopes you fix his issues! You both might end up in a co-dependent relationship that doesn’t really go anywhere and just brings pain. Sadly, it’s pretty common for couples to find themselves in these kinds of situations.

  3. Use Visualization to Attract Your Ideal Partner. Visualization is a powerful tool for creating the life you want. By utilizing positive affirmations, you can make strides to bring what you're looking for closer to reality. Each day when you wake up, use visualization to imagine your ideal spiritual soulmate. Imagine the feelings you will have when they enter your life. Get into their world by visualizing their qualities and energy. Don't visualize how will he or she look like, let destiny choose for you, better focus on some inner qualities dear to you like honesty, loyalty, etc. Don’t forget to focus on how thankful and blessed you are to welcome them into your life.

  4. Practice Spirituality. Enter a practice of regular spiritual practice. Practicing meditation can also help you recognize when your spiritual soulmate has arrived in your life. Being mindful of your feelings can help ground you in the present moment and allow you to identify when a special connection is being made with someone. Don't forget to take a moment and really enjoy the Now. Be thankful for all the good stuff in your life, the things you've got and the ones on their way. It's a great way to keep your spirits up and bring some positive vibes into your journey to finding your spiritual soulmate.

  5. Be Open and Authentic. Stay true to yourself and embrace Authenticity, don't try to pose as someone else. Concentrate on your goals and trust that they will be realized. By maintaining confidence, authenticity, and consistency in your efforts, you enhance your chances of seeing your aspirations come to life.

Soulmate signs that tell you found him/her

Now, if you apply the hints above, before embarking on your journey to find your soulmate, it's essential to understand the signs that indicate a true soulmate connection. These soulmate signs can act as a guiding light, leading you to the person who will change your life for the better:

  1. Intense Attraction: You know that feeling when you meet someone and there's this instant, unexplainable connection? It's like your souls recognize each other, and it's about so much more than just physical attraction.

  2. Trust and Shared Values: When you meet your soulmate, your core beliefs and values just click, paving the way for a truly fulfilling connection. There’s no need for games; trust comes naturally and you both get close effortlessly.

  3. Effortless Communication: You'll find it easy to talk about anything and everything with your soulmate as if you've known each other for years!

  4. You are comfortable with silence. When you're with your soulmate, even the silences are soothing and comforting, no awkwardness at all!

  5. Embrace the Power of Intuition and Synchronicity. While you're searching for your soulmate, remember to trust your instincts and pay attention to those little coincidences—they could be gentle hints guiding you to the perfect moment!

  6. Soulmates have high Empathy levels between them. You get what they're feeling. They might be smiling on the outside, but you're the one who can tell if there's something else hiding behind that smile.

  7. Unconditional Love: True soulmate connections are built on a foundation of unconditional love, where you accept and embrace each other's flaws and imperfections and you don't have a long list of Expectations from each other. Expectations can turn a loving relationship into something that feels more like a transaction than true love.


Keep your heart and mind wide open to everything around you. Pay attention to the little signs and nudges from your soul, or even the universe, through the people you meet, nature, animals, and just about anything. Age doesn't matter here!

If you're tuned into the vibes around you, keeping an open mind, and steering clear of biases, you'll definitely feel it when you meet your soulmate. It's like you've known them forever, even though you've just met. The energy just flows, and you click instantly on every topic.

Plus, diving into spiritual practices can really boost your journey. Things like awakening your kundalini, healing your chakras, or enhancing your spiritual discernment can seriously up your chances of recognizing your soulmate when they come along. So, keep exploring and stay open to all the possibilities!


You can learn more by reading other posts in this spiritual site that are coming from a very different and fresh angle than spiritual mainstream, and based on a very long and personal experience and hands-on research, and not from books.

You might also consider a service like Psychic Readings in the Services section of this site from the ones listed there and get a spiritual diagnostic, or attend my spiritual School of Body and Soul Ascension Mastery so to raise your body and soul awareness, and reach into higher dimensions.



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