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A soulmate definition and how to find your soulmate

Updated: Mar 11

Many people, both spirituals and non-spirituals, ask themselves when being on the quest for their life partner if when meeting such a potential partner if it's also their "soulmate"! In the following, I will explain which are the universe's mechanisms that support us in finding our suitable soulmate at a given point in time.

A soulmate definition

A soul comes on the planet and embodies to experiment with life and enrich himself with life experiences he gathers along his soul journey through life. Throughout life, he/she deals with experiences sometimes better and sometimes less so, and depending on the circumstances and the phase in their life two persons will automatically might be attracted to one another to complement their needs in reaching their life lessons at any one moment. Only through these permanent human interactions we have with each other we are given the opportunity to raise our awareness, to progress in our soul growth.

For example, if one person has in plan to experiment with the subconscious belief of jealousy he/she will be instinctively attracted by a person that will challenge him with jealousy scenarios; this is an example of a “soulmate”. I know, I know, everybody thinks that being with a soulmate should be something of a permanent bliss but that’s a naive perception of the subject.

A soulmate is just another soul that enables you at one point in time to fulfill the quickest your specific life lesson, and you also help him (as his soulmate) reciprocally to fulfill his. Then you move on to the next lesson and life experience and the next soulmate, and so on.

Don't mistake a soulmate for a twin flame, they are very different.

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How to find your soulmate

We all are antennas

Since vibrationally and energetically we are antennas, we emit around us every moment our own vibration we reached at one point in life, and we also receive other people’s emissions. Therefore, we are automatically attracted to persons who have similar vibrations as us, or to persons who are very complementary with us on a specific lesson, whereas one takes the role of aggressor and the other the role of victim in that lesson.

Therefore, in pairs or in groups, we go through life and are attracted to soulmates that help us fulfill our destiny, and in turn we are soulmates for other persons to help them fulfill their life lessons.

This is the basic Creation mechanism to ensure embodied souls have the opportunity to evolve or not, ultimately we have free will in our choices.

How long do we stay with our soulmate?

When two persons who are in some kind of relationship, whether of love, friendship, family, or of some similar kind, find that after a number of years of feeling good together, they start suddenly or progressively not to feel the same common vibe as before, then that's the sign they get from Creation that their spiritual path as soulmates has come to an end.

Because of inertia, fears, and other limiting beliefs, many such couples or friends insist on still staying in close contact. By doing this, they oppose the signs of separation and they ignore that much higher and more powerful forces are in place that governs their destiny. They are actually beaconed to move on with their life to the next soulmate, to other life lessons they have in their divine agenda as souls.

Of course, since over time strong energy bonds have been created between them when following their common spiritual journey, it's really hard to sever these and break up, but that's also part of the life lesson.

How to attract your soulmate?

How to find your soulmate spirituality was always a challenge for any person from the dawn of time. With the right tools and wisdom, you can make yourself more interesting to potential partners that fit the soulmate definition above, and draw closer to the one who is perfect for you. Read on for some tips on how to start the journey toward finding your one true soulmate.

Here are some tips to connect and attract easier the best-suited soulmate for you by the divine:

  1. Increase Self-Awareness and Personal Growth. A crucial step to being able to attract your spiritual soulmate is being self-aware. Take the time to get to know who you are, recognize and embrace your qualities, write down setbacks, and focus on becoming a better version of yourself. When it comes to personal growth, look into areas such as education, career, physical health, and spirituality for yourself.

  2. First, fix your own life issues! Before attracting a compatible love partner you would like to share your life with, be sure to first fix your own life issues. Many people are full of life issues and hope to find a partner that will fix their own issues! This is a very wrong approach and will actually bring a partner that also comes with a bag full of his own issues that also hopes you fix his issues! You will both risk developing a co-dependent toxic relationship that will go nowhere and produce just pain. Unfortunately, many couples are built on such co-dependent relationships.

  3. Use Visualization to Attract Your Ideal Partner. Visualization is a powerful tool for creating the life you want. By utilizing positive affirmations, you can make strides to bring what you're looking for closer to reality. Each day when you wake up, use visualization to imagine your ideal spiritual soulmate. Imagine the feelings you will have when they enter your life. Get into their world by visualizing their qualities and energy. Don't visualize how will he/she look like, let destiny choose for you. Don’t forget to focus on how thankful and blessed you are to welcome them into your life!

  4. Practice Spirituality. Enter a practice of regular meditation. Practicing meditation can also help you recognize when your spiritual soulmate has arrived in your life. Being mindful of your feelings can help ground you in the present moment and allow you to identify when a special connection is being made with someone. Make sure to take the time to appreciate the present moment, and express gratitude for all the blessings that have come into your life – both those that are currently there and those yet to manifest. Doing this will reaffirm your faith and help draw positive energy into attracting your spiritual soulmate.

  5. Be Open and Authentic. Don't try to fake being someone else, be yourself, and be authentic. Focus on what you want to manifest and believe that it will happen. The more confident, authentic, and consistent you are in channeling this energy, the more likely it will come to fruition.


Be open to everything around you, watch the signs coming from your soul and even God coming by events, persons around you whatever their age is, nature, animals, etc.

If you are paying attention, are sensitive to energies, have an open mind, and are not run by some bias, you will certainly feel when you are introduced to your new soulmate! It feels like suddenly you know him/her for a long time although being just introduced, energy flows freely between you, you are on par with any subject, and so on.

Certainly, spiritual practices which lead to spiritual growth, which trigger for instance our kundalini awakening, chakra healing, and improve our spiritual discernment, will increase a lot our chances of correctly identifying a soulmate.


You can learn more by reading other posts in this spiritual site that are coming from a very different and fresh angle than spiritual mainstream, and based on a very long and personal experience and hands-on research, and not from books.

You might also consider a service like Psychic Readings in the Services section of this site from the ones listed there and get a spiritual diagnostic, or attend my spiritual School of Body and Soul Ascension Mastery so to raise your body and soul awareness, and reach into higher dimensions.


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